How to stop being a doormat and "I'm not that kind of guy"

1. Realize that some people are just no good and would like to use you or see you get hurt

2. Realize that some people will dislike you for no reason at all

3. Be kind to everyone while being assertive: You don't need to be rude to decline a request

4. Ask yourself if this person respects you and would return the favor

5. Consider your own needs.

6. Consider a win-win situation: Maybe everyone can profit from the situation.

7. Don't give in to rude people

8. Don't hesitate to say no: A true friend will accept your will.

9. Try to explain why you can't do it, and don't be ashamed for the reason.

I love it when boys say they're "not that kind of guy", as in the kind of guy who would take advantage of a girl, cheat on a girlfriend etc... because they always are that kind of guy. Given the opportunity every boy is a complete and utter asshole. And I mean, why not.

I know I said I'd try to respect men more but it's not going very well.

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