how you know

Sometimes, you're with someone, and you're not sure what you think of them. In my history of being single and all that, I've had a lot of experience of not knowing where you stand with someone.
Before you figure that out, it's super important that you figure out what you want for your self out of this relation, because otherwise you'll get tricked into thinking that you wanna be with this person and after about 2 months when you've tried every position and talked about everything there is to talk about,  your relationship crashes and burns and you end up with even less trust in the opposite sex than when you started out.
So here we go: My one simple trick to know if you like someone. Think about what happens when silence appears. You're talking about something and the conversation dies for a moment before you think of something new to say. Pay attention really closely to what you feel in this moment. In my experience, you'll think one of three things. The first one goes something along the lines of "omg awkward awkward say something say something pleease". That means you're nervous, which is normal if you're just getting to know each other, but it's generally not a very good sign and above all not a sign that you're comfortable with this person. It could be that you're just meeting someone and kind of want them to like you, but when you really click with someone, it doesn't usually take long before you reach the second attitude towards these silences: just neutrality, or warm fluffy feelings. If you both go silent and you feel like it doesn't matter, that you're fine with it but still enjoy being around the person, then congratulations, you've got a great thing going.
What's the third attitude then, you ask? It's funny because I used to think that there were only the two kinds of silences between two people that I already mentioned, but not so long ago I caught myself thinking something like the following during one of these conversation pauses: "Don't start talking. Really. I don't care what you have to say." If you feel like this when you're talking to someone you're dating or something, well then don't fucking get stuck! Treat the person like a kleenex, or if you're a nice person, just end things, but don't fucking start a relationship, and don't forget that you're not actually in love with the person.

Quite pessimistic dating advice from someone in a successful relationship, I know, but remember that I kissed a lot of frogs before I found my prince.